Finding “The One”

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With the national divorce rate at fifty percent it is intimidating to even think about getting married. Here are some helpful tips that will help you decide if  you have found “The One”.

If you ask just about anyone how they knew that their husband or wife was going to be the one that they would spend the rest of their lives with, they often get the same answer, “You just know.” O.k. that sounds great, but how do you know. There are definitely a few ways you can tell.

The first and most important way is that he is your best friend.  You can talk to him about anything. He may not agree with you, but you definitely feel comfortable enough to share secrets or your deepest desires with him.

He is also a person that you can constantly be around and rarely be annoyed. Most likely you will have your moments of being annoyed, but most of the time it is smooth sailing. This should also be a person that you love to go on adventures with. Whether it is going to a movie or a hike, he is your right hand man.

Second, you can see how your lives are going to fit together. This includes having common goals relating to marriage, children, career, where you want to live. Before you get married it is important to know what each others “non-negotiable” life goals are, and to decide what compromises can be made, if any. If you have always dreamed of having a football team of kids, and children is not his thing, this could be recipe for disaster. Life may not happen the way that you intend it to, but it is good to start out with a common objective.

Third, you cannot imagine your life without him. Unfortunately, life happens and there are some circumstances that may not keep you together forever. However, this point you should not be exploring what it would be like if he was gone because you cannot imagine a world in which he doesn’t exist.

One last tip: When it’s your time to walk to the alter and say your vows, take them seriously. I know too many people that have made mistakes and ended up losing the love of their lives.

Also, if you are seeking and have not found your knight in shinning armor, don’t lose hope! He is just as eager to meet you as you are to meet him. It is just not the right time. Do not get discouraged and definitely do not settle.

Talk To You Next Week!

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