We have all been in situations where someone makes you so mad that you never want to talk to them again.
Guess what today is? You guessed it, today is blog day, and the topic is family. If you are like me, there are some members of your family that drive you bananas! You know exactly who they are. They are the family members, who are always complaining about everything, never listen to any advice, and are always causing drama, and the list goes on and on. So, how do you deal with your loved ones without losing your mind? I have a few techniques that I believe are game changers.
It would be safe to say that most of us have a desire to have a happy family. We want to not only get along with our relatives, but we want them to receive our love and love us back. Unfortunately, many of our family relationships are ripped apart due to communication issues, drugs, alcohol, gossip, and a plethora of other issues. The most pressing issue that several people struggle with is communication.
Communication is the most important ingredient in any relationship. Without good communication you are unable to detect what someone is feeling, where they are mentally, and what they need from you. Without it, people get frustrated and often fight. Sometimes to the point of diminishing the relationship completely. So, how do you have better communication? The best way is to talk. Let the other person in your relationship know how you feel and what you are up to. And encourage them to do the same. When you are communicating with one another it makes it so much easier to give the other person what they desire from you.
When communicating, I always find it helpful to begin statements with “I” instead if “you”. People often get offended if they feel like you are attacking them. For example; instead of saying, “you never pay attention to me” say, “I feel like I need more attention.” Using communication and “I” statements can be challenging at first, but they can help your relationship immensely.
Also, I talked a little bit in the last blog about opening your eyes and appreciating the other persons positive qualities. Be vocal about this when you tell a person something that you like about them, if it feels good, and they will crave more. This has worked wonders for me in several areas of my life.
But what happens when you have worked on communication, using “I” statements, and have been vocal about how much you appreciate someone’s good qualities and they still are unbearable to deal with? If you truly believe that you have tried your hardest to salvage a relationship, and nothing seems to work, it may be time to limit your interaction with that person. If the relationship is too toxic you might want to cut in out altogether. You are the only person that you can always count on to take care of you. It may sound harsh to cut someone out of your life, but if it is best for your well-being it is not a bad idea.
We are all most likely going to experience some sort of relationship conflict in our lives. It is important to have the right tools available to help fix these issues. Communication, using “I” statements, and appreciating what someone brings to the table are all great ways to deal with these issues, but always remember; you are in charge of your life and who is in it! You only have one life so surround yourself with amazing people, with good intentions, and people that care about you. You’re are a wonderful person and you deserve it! Thanks for reading! If you would do me a huge favor and share this post, I would greatly appreciate it.
I missed you all. I have not written in a week; I haven’t had much time to write because I was at a family reunion. I learned so much in the last couple weeks about family, but I also learned, how grateful I am for this connection to all of you. I have always wanted to be a part of strengthening and empowering who ever I could, for as long as I can remember. I am here to share as many life lessons with you as I can. In hopes, that it can help you with something in your life that you would like to improve. I am very excited to start launching videos very soon. I would love to know if you prefer video or written blogs?
So much has happened since the last time we spoke, and crazy, it’s all related to family. Last week, when I went on a trip with my mom and my brother to our family reunion I learned many family lessons. Also, my brother was in town for the last month, and I had a scary situation. It seems like every time I pick a blog topic, I am flooded with so much information pertaining to it, but that is great because there are lessons in each story.
The family reunion was amazing, my aunt planned it, and everything was perfect! I know where I got my party planning gene from. I saw so many people that I missed so much. I was very close with my cousins when we were little, and some of my best memories are with them. I was able to meet the new generation, and I am so excited to see what they become. It made me really think about how short life is, and we only have a limited time on earth to spend together. I definitely think we should get together more. I would love to plan our next reunion!
With that said, we are still like every other family. It has not always been this great, but with a little effort, it is better than ever. How do you feel about your family? Do you get along well? Are there underlying issues? I can say I am not 100 percent there with all of my family. I honestly still have a crap ton of work to do, but I am committed to building and nourishing the relationships that I believe are instrumental to my well-being. It is far easier to focus on each relationship or piece of the family puzzle. Let’s start with the cutest little piece. My little brother.
My brother came down at the beginning of June, we had a great time! He is such inspiring, intelligent, and entertaining person. We did not always get along, because we are very different people, and I always focused on everything he did that I did not like. Instead, I began to focus on what was great that we both liked, and all his amazing qualities. When you start focusing on everything that makes a person great, they give you more of it. Ever since I have changed my focus everything has been amazing, and we have had a ton of fun together!
I know you all have lives to get back to so I am going to break this into two parts. Next week, we will talk about the scary situations and a few other family matters. Don’t forget to go on Facebook and Like and Follow my page. Thanks for reading!
Until we meet again…