I thought that this would be a great week to do a “throwback Tuesday”, and tell you the story about how it all began…
What is something that you have always wanted to do, but it absolutely terrifies you? I have always been very outgoing, but wait for it, I’m shy. Yes, shy! I know what you’re thinking: “She is so extroverted, and she makes these videos and speaks in public! How could she possibly be shy?” Every time, I go to talk to a stranger I get really nervous, my palms get sweaty and my hands begin to shake.
I hope everyone has had a wonderful week so far. I am so excited to write this blog about The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. This book/movie ignited my transformation, and I am thrilled to be sharing it with you. Before this book, I was not happy with my existence, and I did not know how to fix it.
Fortunately, in my time of need, I was watching an episode of the Oprah Winfrey show, and they were talking about The Secret. I immediately went out and purchased the DVD and the book in the middle of a rainstorm. I rushed home and I watched it immediately. During the movie, I felt butterflies in my stomach and the hair stood up on my arms, I knew that I had found something great!
The movie starts with Rhonda Byrne’s talking about how she was also in distress, and out of her deepest despair her son gave her a book that contained this great secret. She was shocked to discover these concepts. She began to do research, and realized that many successful people in history knew about these concepts. She was shocked and wanted to see if anyone today knew.
As she began to do her research, all of these individuals who shared these ideas began to emerge. Eventually, she created this movie so she could share with the world what only a few people knew. (Thanks Rhonda!)
I’m sure at this point you are eager to know what is the big secret. The secret is that positive thinking! It has a huge impact on your life. As Mike Dooley simply puts it, “thoughts become things.” What this means, is that every thought that you are having, whether it is positive or negative, is sending out a frequency into the Universe. Whatever you put out into the Universe comes back to you.
I know it seems overwhelming at first, it did for me too. I had so many questions, but once I really started paying attention it became so clear to me. The Secret uses an example of a man in a restaurant. You can tell that the man is grumpy when he comes in, and his entire experience in the restaurant is negative. He gets the wrong order, spills it on himself, you get the idea.
This example was awesome for me because I spent so much time working in restaurants as a server, and I saw this same situation play out over and over. You have two tables sit down in the same section, same server, same chef, and same restaurant. One table is happy-go-lucky, and the other one in a hurry, angry, and overall off-putting. It was always amazing to me how different their experiences were.
The positive people would have an awesome dining experience with tons of fun, good food, and laughter, and the other table would be rude, everything would be wrong, and they would be dissatisfied. Jack Canfield said it best, “If you’re complaining about how bad it is, what you are creating is more of how bad it is.” This is horrible if you are the angry and negative thinking person at the restaurant, but is wonderful if you can make the shift from negative to positive.
If you are committed to making this work, you can have anything and be anything you want. I went from having mounds of debt, low self-esteem, a job I hated, and horrible relationships, to acquiring the husband of my dreams, a beautiful home, the health that I desired, financial stability, and now the career of my dreams. I am so happy and grateful that all my dreams have become reality, but I am even more grateful to be sharing how I got there with you.
Let’s start with how to change your thoughts. We have millions of thoughts every day and it seems impossible to change them all. Well the good thing is that we are not going to focus on changing all your thoughts. For now, we only want to focus on being in a good space. Instead of analyzing every thought that comes into your pretty head, put your energy into being joyful.
There is so many brilliant ideas and people in this book and movie. I definitely encourage everyone to get a copy. The book in beautifully written and the movie in so visually pleasing. I am so thrilled to be able to share these magnificent ideas with you and I am so excited to continue this journey with you all. Join me next week, and we will work together to create an extraordinary life with many breathtaking experiences.
Simply Brandi Olson
The Secret. Dir. Drew Heriot. Prod. Rhonda Byrne and Paul Harrington. Perf. Rhonda Byrne, John Assaraf, Michael Beckwith, Lee Brower, Jack Canfield, John F. Demartini, Marie Diamond, Mike Dooley, Bob Doyle, Hale Dwoskin, Morris E. Goodman, John Gray, John Hagelin, Bill Harris, Ben Johnson, Loral Langemeier, Lisa Nichols, Bob Proctor, James Arthur Ray, David Schirmer, Marci Shimoff, Joe Vitale, Denis Waitley, Neal Donald Walsch, Fred Alan Wolf. N.p., n.d. Web.
Byrne, Rhonda. The Secret. New York: Atria /Beyond Words, 2006. Print.
Isn’t crazy that you can be at the top of your game, but there is a little voice in the back of your head that is making you doubt everything that you are doing. What is this voice, and how do you get rid of it?
If you are like me this voice can push you to the edge, almost to the point of having a breakdown. When the stress and anxiety become too much it becomes unbearable, and it feels like the best option is to throw in the towel. As easy as this would be, this is not a best option for your life, but how do you fix the problem?
I have been working on ideas to overcome this all week. This is what I have come up with….(Please feel free to share any of your ideas on this subject as well.) The first way to deal with these thoughts is to sit down and think about how far you have come already. Write it down! Write down everything you have accomplished so far. It is hard to doubt yourself going forward when you are proud of what you have done!
Another way I have found to deal with that oh so annoying voice is to take some time for myself. I often find when I am feeling this way it is because I am feeling overwhelmed. This is a great time to take a therapeutic bubble bath, meditate, or go get a massage. After you feel like you have calmed down, sit down, and think about how to move forward. It may be that you need to take a detour to reach your desired destination.
Whatever it may be, realizing how far you have come, taking a moment to calm down, and figuring out the best way to move forward will help you overcome those voices of self doubt. Please take the time to take care of yourself. You are important!
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How many of you have set up your life to be very comfortable? You have a job that you have been at forever, and you do the same routine each week with very little change? It is so easy to get in these comfortable places.
Do you feel like you are missing something in your life? Do you find yourself being aggravated with your life or job? It is easy to fall into what I like to call “comfortable gaps.” I call them gaps because I feel like they are hard to pull yourself out of.
I have experienced this many times in my life. I worked in a restaurant for entirely too long, I knew that I needed to get out, but I did not know how. I was not only afraid of change, but I feared the unknown.
I eventually left, and once I did everything changed for the better. I was able to move on with my life, achieve many of my dreams, make more money, and was overall much happier.
As humans, most of us fear change. I have found that it is so important to get comfortable feeling uncomfortable! When we do things that are out of our comfort zone, it allows us to grow in ways that are unimaginable.
I came up with a game that I play with one of my very good friends. Every Monday, we sit down and come up with one task for the other person that we know will make them feel uncomfortable
. You can choose to either do this task or choose one of your own. However, I always try to do the ones that she chooses because these ones are always the ones that make me feel super uncomfortable. This has helped us grow in unimaginable ways! Give it a try! Post in the comments what you have done:)
Thank you so much for reading!
Talk to you next week:)
Hello Everyone! Thank you so much for joining me! This week has been an emotional week and I am excited to talk to you about what has surfaced.
Have you ever had something that you were insecure about? How has this affected your life? There are so many underlying issues that so many of us experience. These emotions can range from not believing you’re good enough, to feeling that you are not worthy of living life. Unfortunately, these insecurities can not only hinder your progress in life, but can make you feel paralyzed. I not only wanted to the address the issue, but I wanted to fix it!
Recently, I realized that I have an issue with not feeling loved. I have always known that I have had unsubconscious thoughts regarding this problem, but I always put on a hard shell and told myself that I did not care if people cared about me or not. Of course, that is not true. Have you ever tried to cover up your feelings to protect yourself? Although, it does work to protect the wound, it does nothing to heal it.
Next, I began to address how it was affecting my life. Most recently, I believe it has stalled my blogging process. I have been having a heck of time getting likes and comments on my blog and I was not sure why.
I began to doubt myself and question why I was working so hard to put out all of this material if no one cared. After some time of reflection, I realized that issue was something that I needed to fix internally. Have you ever been or are you insecure about something that has or is disturbing your life?
I began to think about where these thoughts were coming from. I encourage you to try this as well. Sit down and really think about why you don’t think you are smart enough, good enough, or whatever it is. All of sudden it hit me! In my family we have never been affectionate. No one ever says I love you and we rarely hug. This is something that has been passed down from generation to generation, and I am just as guilty, but fortunately that will stop here.
I sat down with my mom this morning and we had a long talk about why this is, and we came to the conclusion that the why wasn’t as important as fixing the problem. When I left I gave her a big hug, let her know I always have good intentions, and that I love her.
I also plan on thinking of some self-love mantras and surrounding myself with sticky notes that contain positive words of affirmations. I encourage you to do the same if you are struggling. Because you are amazing, you are worthy, and you are loved. This is new one for me as well, if you have tried anything that has worked to fix insecurities please leave it the comments.
And Thank You So Much for Loving and Supporting Me!!!!
Please feel free to comment or e-mail me if there is anything I can ever do to support you.